You might remember, internet, that a year ago on the day after Thanksgiving, I announced my pregnancy to the masses on Facebook and was promptly fired from my job two days later, without any warning or reason and after just having received a merit raise. If you weren’t around then, you can read about it here. I’ve been thinking a lot about that time this week because I remember how scared I was and how lost I felt having worked for this company for 3.5 years and having done so much for those assholes, just to be treated like I was disposable. And right after they found out I was pregnant, no less. There is still NO DOUBT in my mind that this was a case of pregnancy discrimination. And I’m honestly not bitter about it because I know that Karma is a bitch. But mostly, I have more to be thankful for than I did when I was working in that horrible place, busting my ass for a bunch of fucktards. (Pardon the language. But if you knew all of these people, you would totally agree…there are really very few words that fit them…and the other ones are worse than fucktard.)
I am so grateful this year. For the first time in a long time, I feel genuinely lucky. Yes, things have been a whirlwind of insanity for the past year. And yes, sometimes I want to stick my head in the oven. But that is pretty natural for people, I think. Sometimes shit just sucks. But it doesn’t last forever. And overall, I feel like I have more to be grateful for than I ever have before.
First, I am so grateful to be a stay at home mom. It sucks that I lost a job that I was really good at (albeit unappreciated) and it really isn’t cool that I was left high and dry without insurance and a baby on the way. But that worked out. And, in return, I got to (finally) get rid of two people who have been sucking the life out of me for over ten years. And I got rid of a place that was doing the same thing. And now, a year later, I get to spend my days playing with, teaching, laughing with and loving my dearest creation. Baby L. And I wouldn’t trade that for anything.
Second, I got to marry my best friend. I can’t imagine anything better than that. I am eternally grateful to him for being ever-the-optimist and showing me that, despite my catastrophe fantasies, things do work out. And sometimes, they work out better than if you had stuck with your original plan. He’s lightened me so much (even though it may not always seem like it) and made me a happier, more optimistic person. Despite the crazy.
Third, I am so, so, so grateful for my family. I have had so many trials this year. SO many things that have not gone the way that I wanted them to go, but every single time, there was someone there to help me through it. Monetarily, emotionally, whatever. And I never even knew they cared that much. This has been a giant eye-opener to me. And I am humbled.
Last…but DEFINITELY not least, I am so grateful for my daughter. The love of my life. My everything. Without her, I think some of the trials of this past year would have gotten the best of me. But when I look at her and know that I am not living for myself anymore, that I am doing the most important job there is by being her mother, everything is not only all right, but it is totally worth it. I am grateful for being given this gift, even if she is a gift I didn’t know I wanted. Because “you get what you need”. And I am so grateful for this love that I never understood before she showed up.
So, thank you, universe. You have changed me. And you have made me better. And life is good.
Happy Thanksgiving, Universe.
5 thoughts on “You Get What You Need…”
I know an excellent discrimination attorney in Florida who might be willing to take your case on contingency. If anything she could give you a free consult. It could be a nice downpayment on a home or college tuition if there’s a settlement. How’s that for karma. 🙂
“Fucktard” happens to be one of my favorite words, with “asshat” following a close second. Being s SAHM is great. Even if you like to work, you can’t beat getting to watch your kid grow. Not everyone is that lucky.
Now, there’s not many posts that can have me laughing at such inventive swearing (shit sucks – brilliant! Fucktard – my favourite new word!) and also bring tears to my eyes. Love it.
I stopped working to look after my kids and although we may be a bit behind some of our peers financially, I couldn’t care less. We have two great, happy boys who have completely anchored two former fuckwits (my old favourite word) to the important things in life.
Great writing – I’ll be back to read more as soon as I can.
Ha! Thank you very much! I’m a firm believer in keeping things balanced!
The “even if she is a gift I didn’t know I wanted” is so true for me, too. Can’t imagine life without them, now. Happy Thanksgiving.